Seven Predictors of Abuse in an Intimate Partner Relationship

Recognizing subtle warning signs in relationships can play a crucial role in preventing future abuse. While overt behaviours like manipulation, gaslighting, or stalking are often seen as red flags, recent research highlights that less obvious actions can also serve as predictors of future violence. A study by Charlot et al., published in Social Psychological and Personality Science, identified seven key behaviours that may seem minor but can be early indicators of abusive dynamics.

These findings challenge the idea that only extreme behaviours signal danger. By understanding these more subtle warning signs, individuals can take proactive steps to protect themselves from escalating harm, recognizing patterns that might otherwise go unnoticed until it’s too late.

Here are seven predictors of abuse in an intimate partner relationship:

1. My partner acted arrogant or entitled. 
2. My partner and I disagreed about something sexual. 
3. My partner and I had sex, even though I was not in the mood. 
4. My partner created an uncomfortable situation in public. 
5. My partner disregarded my reasoning or logic because it did not agree with theirs. 
6. My partner reacted negatively when I said no to something they wanted. 
7. My partner resented being questioned about how they treat me. 

Recognizing these early warning signs is crucial in preventing future abuse. It’s not just about identifying the presence of red flags, but also understanding that their frequency and consistency significantly increase the risk of violence. The more often these behaviours occur, the higher the likelihood that they will escalate.

By being aware of these patterns, individuals can take proactive steps to protect themselves and those around them. Trusting your instincts and addressing these warning signs before they worsen can make all the difference between staying safe and potentially facing more harmful consequences later on.

If you recognize any of the warning signs, it may be an indication that your relationship is abusive. Create a safety plan or call our crisis line 1-855-687-1868 now to connect with an advocate to confidentially discuss your situation and explore available options.